JOIN CHOSEN

Modern-day romance, with all of the technology around us, can feel like an intense mix of exciting, fun, and overwhelming. We can get discouraged, confused, and frustrated with the process, when all we want to do is meet someone special to be in partnership with. It can feel complex when we want it to be simple. We may wonder if the love we seek will ever find us.

WE LONG FOR THAT SPECIAL WARMTH AT THE END OF THE DAY FROM SOMEONE WHO CHERISHES US. WE WANT TO FEEL PURSUED. WE WANT TO BE DEEPLY WANTED FOR THE BEAUTY IN US THAT GOES DEEPER THAN OUR SKIN. WE LONG TO FEEL SEEN IN OUR HEARTS AND IN THE BRILLIANCE OF OUR MIND.

WE LONG TO FEEL APPRECIATED FOR WHAT WE’VE BEEN THROUGH, WHERE WE’RE GOING, AND TO KNOW THAT WE HAVE A PARTNER ENTHUSIASTICALLY COMMITTED TO LOVING AND WITNESSING OUR EVER-UNFOLDING VULNERABILITY.

And at the center of it all,

we long to feel chosen.

THIS IS FOR ME

“I feel empowered as a woman in today’s world! I was so consumed with the hustle and masculine side of life that I pushed away the desire to be still and know that my feelings are beautiful and such a gift of the feminine. Moving through and holding those feelings has set so much free in my life! Through her eloquence and all-around sweet persona, Jules hit the nail on the head for me and it’s been miraculous for me ever since.”

— Emily

*In my own dating life,*

I’ve learned that I can’t control the process no matter how hard I try (and trust me, I’ve tried!). This is what makes it hopeful and fun. This is why dating can still surprise and delight me. It has built up my self-esteem and made me MORE confident, not less!

DATING SHOWED ME THAT THE FEAR I FELT IN MY LACK OF CONTROL, THE CONFUSION, THE LONELINESS, COULDN’T BE ESCAPED WITH ANY LEVEL OF POWER OR CONTROL THAT I THOUGHT I HAD IN THE REST OF MY LIFE. I COULDN’T MAKE MEN DO WHAT I WANTED THEM TO. THE ONLY THING I HAD CONTROL OVER WAS MYSELF. AND THAT LIBERATED ME.

THIS IS A DATING PROGRAM THAT WILL ASK YOU TO SURRENDER THE OUTCOME; TO TRUST YOURSELF IN THIS MOMENT; TO LET GO OF YOUR NEEDINESS FOR A MAN TO CHOOSE YOU, AND MEET YOURSELF WITH COMMITMENT, COMPASSION, AND CREATIVITY!

YOU WILL PRACTICE.

PRACTICE GETTING IN LINE WITH YOUR PERSONAL VALUES.

PRACTICE FORGIVING YOURSELF.

PRACTICE DATING FROM SELF-TRUST.

PRACTICE INTUITIVELY CREATING THE BOUNDARIES AND GUARDRAILS YOU NEED.

PRACTICE GENUINE VULNERABILITY.

YOU WILL LET GO OF YOUR NEED TO CONTROL THE PROCESS.

YOU WILL SOFTEN.

YOU WILL BLOOM.

YOU WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH ROMANCE. AND YOU WILL DO IT WITH YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN.

YOU WILL COMMIT TO YOURSELF THE SAME WAY YOU WANT HIM TO COMMIT TO YOU.

YOU WILL STAY RIGHT HERE. IN THIS MOMENT. WITH YOUR BODY.

AT TIMES YOU’LL WANT TO RUSH, FIXATE, STAY GUARDED, AND GET WHAT YOU WANT INSTEAD OF MEETING YOURSELF WHERE YOU ARE. THEN YOU’LL REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE.

YOU WILL LET GO.

JOIN HERE

AT THE AGE OF 20, I MET THE MAN I WOULD LATER MARRY AND HAVE MY TWO BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS WITH. WE WERE MADLY IN LOVE AND IN EVERY WAY THAT I UNDERSTOOD AT THE TIME, I WAS COMMITTED TO LOVING HIM FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE.
***AND I BELIEVE NOW, 14 YEARS AND A DIVORCE LATER, THAT I’VE KEPT THAT PROMISE.***

What I’ve learned is that Love is much bigger than the cultural paradigms we use to define it. At one point, it took an engagement ring, a wedding, two pregnancies, and staying in a relationship no matter what the cost to my wellbeing or his, for me to feel like I had truly been Chosen.

Toward the end of my marriage, I was surprised to discover that the 13 year-old girl I used to be, who felt shame and inadequacy and neediness toward men, hadn’t actually gone away. She’d been put to sleep, in a sense, while I lived the dream I thought would silence her.

AFTER MY DIVORCE, I LEARNED HOW TO DATE ALL OVER AGAIN. THROUGH THE UPS AND DOWNS, I HAD TO WALK THROUGH AN INCREDIBLY VULNERABLE EXPERIENCE WHILE SURRENDERING MY NEED TO CONTROL THE OUTCOME.

I DIDN’T KNOW IF OR WHEN I WOULD GET TO HAVE ANOTHER PARTNER. I DIDN’T KNOW IF OR WHEN I’D EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN. ALL I KNEW WAS THAT I WANTED TO BELIEVE I COULD LOVE AND TRUST SOMEONE WITH MY HEART ONE DAY, AND THAT I WANTED TO BE THAT TRUSTWORTHY PERSON FOR MYSELF FIRST AND FOREMOST.

I’m in

In my work with women, what I see time and time again is that they are relieved to find out that they don’t need to wait until they find “the one” before they can be happy, fulfilled, and sure of themselves.

At our core, we long to trust ourselves with the process. We need to know we will not abandon ourselves no matter how messy or confusing things get. And anyone that dates us will need to see our deep sense of self-partnership in order to join us in committed intimacy.

“I feel more confident in the woman I am just as I am. I no longer feel the need to perform for others or ‘become my best self.’ Jules taught me how to embrace who I am rather than constantly working to ‘become’ someone or something better.”

— Sarah

FIND CLARITY, COMMITMENT, AND CERTAINTY WITHIN YOURSELF.

OWN YOUR DESIRE FOR LOVE AND INTIMACY, FIRST AND FOREMOST.

UNCOVER THE NEEDS THAT YOU’VE BURIED BECAUSE OF DISAPPOINTMENT AND BRING THEM TO THE SURFACE.

LEARN HOW TO FIND WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY LOOKING FOR IN A PARTNER.

UNHOOK FROM THE NEEDINESS FOR A MAN TO CHOOSE YOU.

RECEIVE REJECTION AS A DIVINE GIFT.

REWRITE OLD STORIES OF SHAME AND ABANDONMENT.

LEARN HOW TO BUILD AN EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH A MAN ALONGSIDE A SEXUAL ONE.

BRING YOUR FULL FEMININE RADIANCE TO THE DATING PROCESS.

SURRENDER THE OUTCOME OF YOUR DATING LIFE WHILE KEEPING YOUR DESIRES TOP PRIORITY SO THAT YOU CAN HAVE THE LOVE YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED.

I'M IN

💌 You’re ready to feel anchored and empowered in the dating process in a way you haven’t before.

💌 You’re ready to try a new way forward that will challenge you, and will ultimately bring out the best in you.

💌 You tend to rush connections, get reactive, or end things altogether when you get anxious.

💌 You don’t want to settle, but you feel like you have to sometimes.

💌 You struggle to honor the boundaries you say you want.

💌 You could use some guidance when it comes to imagining the relationship that would be right for you.

💌 You are unwilling to accept confusion and inconsistency from men any longer.

💌 You’re ready to do this process with a sisterhood around you, and with Jules as your guide. You don’t want to be in this alone anymore.

✖️You are more committed to keeping your patterns than to changing them.

✖️You want Jules to have the answers that can only come from inside you.

✖️You have a gut feeling this program is not for you.

✖️The price of the program would cause so much financial stress that you find yourself unable to fully participate in the program and your dating life.

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What members of Jules’ past programs are saying:

“I am more confident in my decision making, I have created so much more space for myself and taking care of my body.”

- Sierra

“I realized that the answers I've been looking for reside within me. This program mirrored to me that I've always had the power to speak my truth--the power of radical responsibility is a new perspective that has changed how I am choosing to live life from now on.”

- Michelle

“I am unapologetically in a love affair with myself! How surprising after all of these years of abandoning her it turns out she’s the one life who’s always going to be with me and have my back.”

- Angel

“I’ve learned to give myself permission to just BE. To feel how I’m feeling. To want what I want. To be sad, to feel happy, to work hard, to take breaks, and to reset. It’s all acceptable and okay!”

- Anonymous

Are you ready to become the most radiant person you know?

yes, I'm ready!

While this is a program geared toward and created for single women, the teachings and practices translate into any relationship context. If you’re in a new relationship and want to feel more anchored in your worth, your self care, and your radiance, this program could be a great fit for you.
This program is perfect for women who are not sure whether they are ready to date, because it's all about getting clear on what's true and brave for you in any given moment. You may feel at times that you're ready, and at others that you're not, and this gives us valuable practice relating with ourselves in a more nuanced, kind way that isn’t so black-and-white. This is something we want to practice with whomever we are dating as well.
First, in this course we make the most of pre-recorded video teachings that allows us to create the highest-impact support environment for you at the lowest price point possible. These are the core teachings that Jules goes through in her private sessions.
Second, this Is the only self-paced dating program Jules offers. If you’d like to receive dating support from her in another format, you are always invited to apply for one-on-one coaching with her.
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You will gain 6 month access. All materials can be downloaded and stored for your future reference.
We recommend setting aside around 30 minutes for each video teaching (one per week) plus however much time you plan to spend in reflection, journaling, and other practical steps which are wholeheartedly encouraged.